Every time someone runs their hands through my hair I get the same reaction: oohh its so thick/curly/wooly/soft/hard/long/pretty. But even from people that have never touched my hair, the most frequently used to describe it is ‘thick’.
Now I can understand why you would think so, like most people with type 4 hair my hair shrinks a lot, i’d say to about 50% of its normal length. That hair is all bunched up near my scalp, giving the appearance that I have short, thick hair. (The way people tend to talk about thickness actually refers to the density of hairs on my scalp rather than the width of the individual strands).
When partly stretched out, you can actually see that my ends seems to go see through. At first, I thought this was due to bad hair practices on my part, but I then realised that if i completely stretched my hair out, most of the lengths were equal, meaning it was just the fact that I didn’t have that much hair on my head that gave the appearance of thin ends.
Acknowledging this helps me to understand why certain styles never look quite the same even when I copy and tweak ideas from other type 4 naturalistas. Now I have resigned myself to the fact that my hair will never be Tracee Ellis Ross big, but that doesn’t dictate whether i’ll have a banging twist out or pretty flat twists. It just means that I may need a bit of extra help to make my hair ‘big’ when I want to. Honestly though, for me, I like my ‘not too big’ hair just fine, styling only takes about two hours and detangling lasts for an hour tops.
The main way I try and give the illusion of full hair is to do ‘out’ styles like twist-outs and bantu knot-outs. They give extra volume and make your hair look a lot bigger without the hassle of having to add extra hair. Obviously, you could add extra hair such as marley hair or natural looking clip-ins to give your hair a boost.
Those are just a few of the advantages of less dense hair, obviously dense hair has its advantages too, so i’m not knocking you if you have dense hair. I just think you should love what you have and admire what you don’t 😉