Hope you have all enjoyed your Christmas holiday so far, and are gearing up to celebrate new year! My Christmas ‘holiday’ has been uneventful but fun this year, been catching up with long lost friends, going out to eat and all that jazz. Unfortunately, I don’t get holiday at my workplace, so i’ve not had as much rest as I could have, but its not been too bad.
Well, everyone and their mother has been getting on my back about doing a ‘proper’ protective style, and I just sat looking at them like ‘huh??? but I just took out some Marley twists?’ Apparently, they weren’t in long enough (wondering why people care so much?) but I felt like giving my hair a proper break too, so I went for it.
I got some hair from Ali Express, and even though I am wary of buying things like hair online where you can’t see the quality, I have heard nothing but good things about Ali Express and so I bought a closure for a curly weave that I already had, and also a wavy 4 bundle pack with a closure.
The hair feels really good, it’s soft and silky and hasn’t shed at all yet, but it’s only been a day so any comments are a bit premature. Anyways, I washed and prepped my hair, using African Naturalistas Twist and Curl Pudding as my leave-in before I African threaded my hair. I woke up the next morning and my hair was DRY, dryer than week old bread, it was horrible! I decided to undo all the threading and re-moisturise and twist my hair into two strand twists using shea butter.
The shea butter didn’t help much, my hair was still quite dry but felt a bit better. I couldn’t go to the salon that day, but two days after, I managed to spare some time. Usually, I wouldn’t go to this salon as it is a relaxed salon, but my mum told me that there was a particular person that could do natural hair and that he was really good, so I went. I untwisted my hair before I got to his chair and the first thing he said was,’ Your kind of hair is a war to blow dry.’ Now I was thinking, hold on? Why are you fighting with my hair, if you know how to handle it. That was my warning sign, but I felt like I should just give him a chance, little did I know that I should have run as fast as I could. Next thing he brought a medium sized comb and started to comb my hair DRY. He just got stuck in and started tugging my hair, and I could feel my poor strands breaking and being ripped out of my scalp. After the third time I was like NO, stop, i’ll de-tangle it myself. So he left to attend to someone else while I attempted to de-tangle my hair.
Then I thought to myself, Simi, You never comb your dry, its such a no-no, why are you doing this to yourself? And that’s when I snapped, I got up, grabbed my things, and walked out the door, the ladies looked shocked when I started walking out and asked me why I was going. I just shook my head and kept going. I felt so angry that I had allowed that guy to damage part of my hair, and immediately decided to wash and prep my hair again so I could do it at another salon.
I sprayed on a mix of conditioner, castile soap and water, and started clarifying all the product I had used, and just by raking the product through my hair I saw the breakage that had happened. Clumps and strands of my hair were falling out, I was so angry!
Thankfully I managed to de-tangle my hair without losing too much more, and after I washed it, I put shea butter in my hair and put it straight in twists. I had to go out that night so I untwisted the twists, but only the back was dry, the rest was poofy and undefined. I twisted the front into a kind of side pompadour and put up the rest in a head band.
The next day I went to the salon I originally intended to go to, Mods Salon in lekki Phase 1 if anyone is interested, you can find the details here.
Its a small quiet salon, and I was impressed with the service. The lady who did my hair was very gentle with it, and even though I had to ask her to loosen her grip a few times, she didn’t do the hair too tight. My closure was nicely sown on, but she had a bit of a problem laying my stubborn edges flat, all in all it was good, and I don’t feel like I lost hair.
I’m glad I had the balls to walk out of the salon before I left there bald, it’s not something I ever thought I could do, but i’m also pissed at myself for not following my gut. Ah well, i’m lucky it was only a bit of hair that fell out, I’ve seen horror stories that were much worse. Do you like my new look?