Straightening my hair?


So, a few weeks back, I posted about straightening my hair soon. Yet, there’s been no post about it. Why you ask? Well, it might have something to do with the fact that after deep conditioning, and blowing out my hair, the straighteners exploded in my hand, just as i was about to put on my hair.

So yeah, even though I almost died (a day before my 19th Birthday) it wasn’t a total waste of 7 hours though. This is because although i have extremely low porosity hair, for the first time ever, my blown out hair felt soft and smooth. Normally, my hair is brittle and dry after blowdrying and when i looked on Youtube about how to alleviate this, I found that the using the cold option on my hair dryer was the only way. However, cold air doesn’t quite get my hair as straight as I want it, because my hair only does what it wants to do and because I have a lot of it (which is the cause of most of my hair problems).

I thought long and hard about what I did that was different this time. Why is it that my hair felt amazing, even though it was crispier than a McDonalds apple pie before i started the whole process?

Well, I’m still not sure, but I will highlight everything I did throughout the process below.

Step 1: Beforehand

So basically my previous hairstyle before I decided to straighten it was a 4 week old wash’n’go (hehe) because I am so lazy. My wash’n’gos however, aren’t really that concerned about definition. I only apply leave in and oil to my hair and then i throw it in a puff, occasionally laying my edges when I feel like it. Therefore, my hair wasn’t in prime condition for straightening but it was my 19th and i wanted it straight so I decided to fix it.

Step 2: Deep Conditioning

The first thing I did was deep condition using Organics Africas Best Cholesterol Tea Tree Oil. I put it in my hair quite late at night and then covered my hair with a plastic bag (struggles 😭😭😭) and left it overnight. The next morning, I washed it out of my hair thoroughly before putting some of my Tresseme Remoisture Conditioner For All Hair Types.

Step 3: Detangling

Usually, I finger detangle because I’m lazy and because I figured i lose less hair that way but I knew that I to straighten my hair, I was going to have to use the chase method, which meant that I was going to have to detangle properly. This would have been the perfect time for a brush, alas, I couldn’t find mine and so i had to settle with finger detangling first, using a wide tooth comb and then switching to a smaller comb. I always apply my conditioner to my whole head, so that all parts get equally conditioned and then I separate my hair into 6 parts using clips. All of you guys than can do 4 parts, I envy you greatly. I generally start from the back because although its the nicest and most defined part of my hair, it gets the most tangled.

Step 4 Blowdry Prep:

So when I finished detangling, I washed my hair out and then prepped it for heat styling. To do this, I sprayed in about 5 squirts of Aunt Jackie’s Hydrating Silkening Hair Milk and about 4 of  Aphogee ProVitamin Leave-In Conditioner to each section, before putting in a small amount of Organic Root Stimulator Olive Oil Heat Protection Serum which is a heat protectant. Now with heat protectants, especially oil based products, its easy to be heavy handed, thinking more is better however, with such a heavy product, too much will weight your hair down and make it extremely greasy so be rather stingy with the amount you use. I can’t say the same for spray heat protectants as I’ve never tried them but, too much of anything can make you sick as Cheryl Cole says. I divide each part into four sections and I prep and blowdry each section separately. So once I have put heat protectant on a section within my part, I go straight to blowdrying and then repeat the process.

Step 5: Blowdrying

I just used my very old babyliss hairdryer to do this. It comes with three speed settings and a cool button so I have no control over the amount of heat I use. I tend to use the highest setting because I get tired quickly especially since I have a lot of hair. To combat this though, I use a funnel attachment on my hairdryer and I use the wonderful Denman Straightener Brush . I generally dry the hair to about 70% using the tension method before going in with the straightener brush and at this point, I keep the heat in the brush, rather than my hair as the brush has ceramic plates which help to further straighten my hair.

This is all I did to get my wonderful soft hair, unfortunately, I didn’t take pictures because I was traumatized from almost electrocuting my brain, but theres always next time I guess.
See you around

Temi xx

p.s. should I put links to all the products I used below?

Living The Braids Life

Hey guys, guess who’s back!

Earlier this year, I got my favourite waist length braids done again. It’s become a staple for me to do these braids at least once a year, and i’ve spoke of my love for them on the other blog  that got deleted (I’ve kept you guys in the dark about this, but i’m sure you’ve noticed *sigh*).


I got them done in the same place as last time, a salon in Ajah, and got 4 packs of hair from Eko/Idumota market for N300 each (a bargain!). However, it seemed like there was a bit of a mix up because only 3 of the 4 packs were in my normal colour 4 whilst the last  pack was in colour which is bright purple. Luckily the hairdresser said she’d mix the purple pack in as she went on so it wouldn’t be too obvious.

Unfortunately I didn’t get many pictures of the hair, I guess I was too busy enjoying it.





My First Ever Braidout

Hey Curlies!

As most of you know, I’ve never really been a fan of braidouts. Twists and twistouts have been my go-to style from my transitioning days. I just could never imagine why i would take extra time braiding only to have not-so defined curls the next day. The few times I tried it, something always went wrong and I ended up throwing my hair into a textured puff. Eventually, I decided that braidouts were not for me.

Fast forward to late last year, I had been wearing a full wig with a closure and underneath I had done my hair into six braids (which only worked because my hair is thin, and the braids were nice and tight). I had successfully worn the wig for almost two weeks, when on the last day of my second week I FORGOT THE WIG AT HOME!! Now, this isn’t the first time this has happened to me, and it serves me right for not sleeping on time or getting my stuff ready the night before. But this time, the method I had used (wearing a scarf) was not available. Alas, what was I to do? I had to take down the braids, to my utmost despair.

Good save, right?

Luckily, I had some Shea Moisture Smoothie in my car to aid in the take down process. So, I took each braid down with some smoothie on my fingers and fluffed up each section till there were no parts left. Would you imagine it came out flawlessly! You’d never imagine that I hadn’t planned to do the style.

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From the front
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Side View

And that, my friends, is the story of how I decided that braidouts weren’t so bad after all!

What do you think?



Where To Find: My Hair Products

Hey guys,

Today, I’m talking about where I go to get my products. As a former product junkie, I’ve learnt to control my impulse buying and whittled my products down to a small but powerful stash. Because I’m so stuck on particular products (with a few exceptions) it’s important to know where I can get my next bottle. A list of my current products can be found on My current regimen page which shows a list of the things I currently use, here’s where to buy them :



Olori is an online hair and beauty mega store that sells almost every popular natural hair product under the sun. You can find a good number of the most sought after products including henna and clays. Here are the products they sell that are in my current stash:

  • As I am coconut co-wash
  • Dr Bronners peppermint castile soap
  • Beautiful textures moisture butter whipped curl cream
  • Shea moisture curl enhancing smoothie


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CasaBella is a beauty haven chock full of makeup and hair products. They only have walk-in stores for now but there are plenty of stores so you don’t have to miss out.
  • Elasta QP Glaze
  • Vitale Olive oil hair mayonnaise
  • Herbal Essences hello hydration conditioner


Sahara Sunrise
Sahara Sunrise is a company that creates hair and skin products using only natural ingredients. Their products smell so good and they won’t put too big of a dent in your pocket either.
  • Bentonite clay shampoo bar
  • Lemon and honey black soap paste

These are the products that you can pretty much get in any grocery/health/natural hair store. There are so many brands and types that i’d rather let you make your own choice.

  • Whipped shea butter
  • Extra virgin olive oil
Jumia – online shopping in Nigeria for electronics, mobiles, fashion & more

Jumia is an online department store selling everything from baby toys to kitchen ware and car accesories. There’s a lot to choose from in this site so you may get lost, but they do have quite a comprehensive naturalista-friendly section that you could check out. You can buy the products below straight from the links underneath (I get some commission if you do, so get buying pretty please :D)

There you go, this is where I get the majority of my natural hair products, where do you get yours? (Don’t forget to buy something from Jumia!!)





Makeup Addict: Good skin on a small budget.


I have had bad skin for years, from when I was about 11 to as recently as last week and I would definitely say that it’s genetic. Amazing skin doesn’t run in my family, and I’m not expecting to get to that level, but what I have achieved at least is clear skin. On a good day, when I’ve been consistent with my regimen and I’m not experiencing any hormonal difficulties my skin tone is even and my face is soft, smooth and free from (obvious) blemishes. On a bad day, I’m breaking out in rashes spots and blackheads, my skin is dry and rough to the touch and no amount of face cream can soften it up.


Way before I discovered my skin regimen, notice the discolouration and blemishes
Everything was going well until that disrespectful spot came to the party 😧

The skincare business is worth billions of whatever currency you fancy, various companies trying to convince you that their ‘natural’ not-so-natural products are the best for you and will help you achieve xyz. However, a lot of the chemicals in their products are not good for you and can actually end up hurting your skin. I try not to use the products have drifted towards more natural ingredients for my face which i’ll discuss in another post. The points below have helped me maintain the texture of my face and keep it mostly spot free:

1.   Get a routine, be consistent with it

This step is pretty simple, even if you’re only doing the barest minimum to your face, if you’re consistent with it you will see results. Resolving to wash your face every day/night and moisturising after is a good place to start. After you get used to this, you can then add another step like using toner/exfoliating.

2.   Make sure you’re taking care of all of your facial needs

The Koreans are famous for having a 10-17-step skincare regime. This may seem a lot to those of us who can barely manage to take off our make-up before bed, however they carry out all these steps with good reason. Each step is not carried out every day, but is tailored to what they feel their skin needs on any given day. Take the steps you think are necessary for your skin and put then into a regimen  These are the most common steps taken in no particular order:

  1. Oil based cleanser
  2. Foam based cleanser
  3. Toner
  4. Essence
  5. Oil Serum
  6. Anti-aging serum
  7. Cream serum
  8. Facial massage
  9. pressure points
  10. Masks
  11. Exfoliator
  12. Eye cream
  13. Moisturiser
  14. Sun cream
  15. Mist
  16. Facial

3.   Dilute it

I am currently transitioning into using mostly natural products for my skincare routine. Unfortunately, the last time I bought products, I stocked up so I have a whole lot to go through. The way I try to minimise any negative damage is by diluting the products before I use them. For example, for my face wash, I dilute it to a ratio of 1 part soap to 3 parts water. Doing this means I get a quarter of the normal amount with each pump and I find this is still more than enough to get my face clean. This also works if you’re trying to make your products last a lot longer.

4.   You are what you eat

We hear this all the time so I won’t bore you with this. eating healthy food means healthier looking skin. As well as this, you may notice that your skin reacts when you eat certain foods. I am lactose intolerant, and my face shows it’s displeasure anytime I eat dairy by breaking out in spots or a rash. It’s definitely worth taking the time to note these down and restrict your diet from items that your body doesn’t agree with.

5.   Natural is better

I agree with this statement maybe 80% or so. Yes, natural products are more likely to be good for your skin, but just because a product is ‘natural’ doesn’t necessarily mean that your skin will like it. Substances like henna and pure essential oils can cause major skin reactions and even burns on your skin if care is not taken. Always do a patch test 24 hours before you plan to use a new ingredient on your skin. Better safe than sorry.


Here you are girlies, my 5 tips for better skin!





Bleaching Natural Hair

Most if you do not know who I am. I’m the ghost that trails behind the scenes, stalking my sisters posts- usually before they happen. I’m the prodigal sister who went out to enjoy the world but is now back, begging for forgiveness. I am that girl who once had a bomb ass twist out all those years ago using flaxseed gel. I am Temi and I am not a myth.

If you follow me on the gram (which I don’t see why you wouldn’t helloooo @temilola_solesi) you would know that my hair is green and a poppin’ bright green at that. I get people all the time coming up to me asking how I got my broccoli hair. People on the train. People on the street. All of the people that I meet (but I’m not a rapper 😂).

First things first, to get your head looking like a jolly rancher, you must bleach. GASP yeah I know. But won’t your hair break endlessly leaving you bald headed and bleary eyed at the loss of three years worth of new hair growth? Yes and no. It all depends on a lot of factors such as how healthy your hair is in the first place, how long you leave the bleach in, what volume of developer you use and how you dye your hair after the bleaching process. Impending baldness also depends on how well you prepare beforehand and so in order to prevent anyone from coming after me if their hair falls out after bleaching let me explain how to do so.

Okay preparation is easy, always bleach dirty hair (at least a week old). This seems pretty self explanatory for me because bleach on clean hair will destroy your scalp. When I say dirty, I don’t mean go and roll around in mud, but leave sufficient time between your last wash and bleaching so that there is sufficient sebum produced on your scalp and maybe even (dare I say it) a little bit of product residue to protect your scalp. The night before bleaching my hair, I put a very generous amount (I’m talking bill gates) of coconut oil in my hair and covered it with a plastic cap so that it could really soak into my follicles overnight as I have low porosity hair. These days, I would probably use a mix of coconut and castor oil because coconut oil alone doesn’t seem to do much for my hair, while castor oil would be too thick for the purpose at hand. I however used coconut oil, and still have hair on my head today.

Another thing to think about for prep is doing a skin and strand test with the bleach in order to avoid severe reactions. Speaking of reactions, you might want to check if you have any plastic equipment because metal reacts with bleach and dyes, so if not, you might want to pop to the shops.

Next up, it’s the day of bleaching, you’re feeling apprehensive (about damage) but excited at the prospect of maybe looking like an entirely different person at the end of it, effectively shocking your friends, family and haters into an instantaneous meltdown because you’re going to look fierce af. You’ve got to get up early champ, and eat a good hearty breakfast, because today is going to be a tough one. To get the ball rolling, take a few pictures with your grease saturated hair for the before and after pictures and maybe even post a cheeky selfie on your snapchat story with an ominous caption like ‘say goodbye to my hair as you know it’ with the see no evil emoji. I got all of my resources together, I had pictures and everything of all the things needed but the phone I took pictures of my first bleach job on is broken and my laptop recently crashed so I’ll just make a list:

An old t shirt
Rubber gloves
Mixing bowl
Applicator brush (if applicable)
Dye powder
30 vol developer
A rat tail comb (you can find applicator brushes which are pointy on one side for parting hair)
A clock, watch or timer
(Deep) Conditioner

And now *drum roll please*

Instructiones (is this even a real word?)

1. Put newspaper down everywhere and I mean EVERYWHERE and put on that old shirt. It’s time to get BUSY.

2. Line your hairline with Vaseline. This is to protect the skin there so if you still want edges at the end of this process, I’d advise you to heed my warnings. Also, if you’ve only sectioned of a part of your hair for bleaching, make sure you put Vaseline over the demarcation line so that the bleach doesn’t leach out to a different area of your head.

2. Apply gloves on to hands. Make sure each finger is in the right part of the glove. No messing about.

3. Mix your bleach powder with your developer. I used Jerome Russel Bblonde High Lift Powder Bleach and Bblonde Maximum Cream Peroxide 30 vol. Even though I have very thick and strong hair, I read the 40 vol developer will destroy your hair, and as someone who is too lazy to do the proper natural regiment with lots of deep conditioning and satin bonnets (as you’ll find out soon enough), I wasn’t taking any chances. Mix until both products are blended smoothly. Basically, follow the instructions on the box. The mixture usually gets a bit frothy and creamy.

4. Start at the edge of your section, if you are doing your full head then you should have already sectioned your hair into at least four parts. Apply bleach to the edge of your section using your fingers or the applicator brush, and using a rat tail comb part small sections going in the direction of the other side of the part and continue the applying the bleach. Start from the tip and go toward the scalp stopping about an inch away since hair closer to the scalp lightens faster.

5. This particular bleaching kit states that you can leave the hair anywhere from 20-90 minutes i.e. until you reach your desired colour. However, 15 minutes in, you will need to go back and do your roots stopping about 1/4 of an inch from the scalp.

6. When your desired coloured is reached, rinse the bleach out with warm water, not cold since cold water will close your cuticles, thus trapping bleach inside (at least I’d say so as it makes sense logically). Your hair will literally feel (and look) like straw and so to save those strands, shampoo with warm water to get all of the bleach out, and then condition/deep condition overnight rinsing it out in the morning with cold water to lock in the conditioner.

7. Now you’re a whole new person, so you can either tone your hair if your goal is to be blonde, dye your hair although some people recommend you wait a few days- I didn’t because I’m an independent black woman who does what she wants 💁🏾 (p.s why can’t my emoji have an Afro, although that’s a whole other topic) or you can let it rest for a bit and decide you’d future moves later.

Like I said earlier, I have no pictures from my first bleach attempt, but I have a few from touching up my roots. Well, I say roots, but it’s a years worth of hair 😅😂.




In the first picture, my hair is saturated in coconut oil, begging to be bleached.

The second one was taken at 1.13pm a few minutes after applying the bleach.

The third one was taken at 1.44pm seconds before I rinsed the bleach out

In this final picture, my hair has been rinsed of bleach and shampooed and I am sure that I was about to apply some conditioner or a protein treatment, I’m not sure which I did first. As you can see, my hair not only feels a bit lit straw but also looks like it. This is because for some reason, my brain told me it would be a good idea to bleach my already bleached hair again as well as my roots. Bad idea guys. However, with the proper treatment my ends did survive and thrive.

And so to avoid confusion, in the pictures, I bleached all of the hairs from root to tip, which i know now, that you should only do when bleaching for the first time. When you are bleaching your roots, simply bleach just your roots… I mean it’s sounds like common sense but for some of us (ehem, me) it’s not that common.

So take care of yourselves guys, and tell me what you want my next post to be on. Colouring? Things no one told you about bleaching you’d hair? Or being a lazy natural?

See ya. Catch ya. Later.

Temi x


Restoring your hair line

Hi curlies,

Today’s topic was requested, so we’re going to talk about hair loss and how to restore it. I’m one of those people who have noticed that my hairline wasn’t looking as full as it used to, especially when I was relaxed. So we’re going to explore how to prevent hair loss and how to reverse it.

Note: Something to note is that one reason my hairline now looks thinner is that my relaxed hair was a lot thinner than my natural hair. As a result, my hairline looks thinner than the rest of my hair by comparison. A few pictures should be able to tell you whether this is the case and you may not have anything to worry about.






  • Trying too hard to get your edges ‘on fleek’- I think you all know what I mean. Gel, edge control, pomade and brushing your hair to reach that slick effect that makes your hair look ‘neat’. It’s not necessary, and overdoing it can give you permanent hair loss not just on your edges, but the whole hairline. If you really need your hair to be smooth put a bit of product and tie a scarf overnight for for an hour for smooth edges without the mechanical trauma.


  • Protective styles – most styles with hair added tend to put a strain on your hairline. Braids, weaves and even cornrowed styles can wreak havoc if done too tight, if too much hair is added, it it’s left on too long etc. I think this is the worst culprit, everyone has seen the pics of Naomi Campbell with no front hair whatsoever and it’s not just her that has suffered from it. To avoid this hair nightmare, you need to tell your hairdresser to take it easy when they are doing your hair. They need to gently manipulate it so it doesn’t fall out at the roots. This kind of damage can be permanent so it’s good to watch out for this.



  • Jamaican Black Castor Oil – Massaging in room temperature or warm JBCO every morning and night has been known to help restore edges. Oils such as peppermint and rosemary are also known to stimulate hair growth and can be added to the castor oil to improve it’s potency. You could try doing this less frequently if you’re a bit short for time.


  • Raw onion juice – Blend finely chopped onions and with water and rub on your hairline every night. This method is very smelly and may not be suited to a lot of people, so I would suggest this as on overnight pre-poo the night before your wash day.


  • Honey, castor oil, olive oil and an egg yolk may be your ticket to full edges. Using this as a pre-poo will help to grow back your edges.


There you have it, tips to help you grow out your lost hairline, I hope this helps!





What’s in my bag?

So I was tagged to do this post by the lovely Alex of The Lazy Natural and its taken me a while because I had to de-litter my bag, it was filled with nonsensical things that I would never show you guys 😝. Without further ado let’s begin:


1. My wallet: I got this on holiday in Spain in this haul. It wasn’t too expensive at €8.99 and was really good value for money because two years after, it looks as good as new.

2. My not-really-sunglasses sunglasses: I have some funky eyes. I can’t see in the sun or any bright situation, but I can’t wear sunglasses at night because then it’s too dark. These are polarizing sunglasses so the reduce the amount of light coming in without actually making my vision darker.

3. My makeup bag: I also got this on holiday in Spain. The white stitching is a bit off Colour but it still looks pretty good.

4. Loose change: I’m not a fan of cash, I’d rather be living the contactless card life. So whenever I get change, my wallet is already closed. Extra change just swims around my bag, which is great for the toll gate not to good for my bags tidiness.

5. Ipad mini 2: I got this as a present, and I find it much more convenient to write posts on the go because it’s much bigger than my phone so it’s easier to add pictures.

6. Wall/USB charger: I hate when my devices run low so I make sure i’m prepared.

7. Keys: Pretty explanatory don’t ya think?

8. Body Spray: With all this Lagos heat and sweat, I feel a bit funky sometimes. This body spray does a great job of restoring my oh-so fresh feeling.

9. Vaseline Cocoa Butter Hand and Body Cream: It smelled delicious in the store and was only N200!!! I thought it would be a crime not to buy it. They have a bigger version for N500 that I keep in my car, because the AC really dries my skin out.

And there you have it, that’s whats in my bag!


(PS I reposted to show the picture and edits)