As most of you know, I’ve never really been a fan of braidouts. Twists and twistouts have been my go-to style from my transitioning days. I just could never imagine why i would take extra time braiding only to have not-so defined curls the next day. The few times I tried it, something always went wrong and I ended up throwing my hair into a textured puff. Eventually, I decided that braidouts were not for me.
Fast forward to late last year, I had been wearing a full wig with a closure and underneath I had done my hair into six braids (which only worked because my hair is thin, and the braids were nice and tight). I had successfully worn the wig for almost two weeks, when on the last day of my second week I FORGOT THE WIG AT HOME!! Now, this isn’t the first time this has happened to me, and it serves me right for not sleeping on time or getting my stuff ready the night before. But this time, the method I had used (wearing a scarf) was not available. Alas, what was I to do? I had to take down the braids, to my utmost despair.
Luckily, I had some Shea Moisture Smoothie in my car to aid in the take down process. So, I took each braid down with some smoothie on my fingers and fluffed up each section till there were no parts left. Would you imagine it came out flawlessly! You’d never imagine that I hadn’t planned to do the style.
And that, my friends, is the story of how I decided that braidouts weren’t so bad after all!
So it’s been a while since I followed the MHM method after having the twists, weave, more twists etc. One thing I like about the method though is that it’s nice to have a fixed regimen, I know exactly what i’m going to do and how often I need to do it. Whether I do exactly what i’m supposed to do is another thing entirely.
One thing I noticed about MHM is, my curls are always more defined than before, no matter what I did to my hair in between. I used to think that combing the hair would reverse or slow down the clumping, which it probably does to an extent but I still see better results every cycle.
My current method/products, do differ slightly than before but it doesn’t seem to have changed my hair in a major fashion. My current method is:
Cherry Lola: Liquid aminos, conditioner or yoghurt, honey and olive oil. I do this for at least an hour.
If i’m not doing the Cherry Lola I use a mix of water, conditioner and baking soda (I find that this mix is nice and slippery for detangling) rinsing immediately after the section is detangled.
Bentonite clay mix: about half a cup of bentonite clay mixed with aloe vera gel, olive oil, honey and conditioner. I leave this on for about 30 mins.
Deep conditioner: This I leave on for another 30 mins or so, sometimes the bentonite can be a bit drying so I only use this to soften it back up again.
Warm water, olive oil and conditioner: This mix really defines my curls and allows me to separate the clumps to create more volume whilst preventing frizz. This is a new find that i’m sticking to.
Gel if I find it necessary. After using the mix above, I don’t need to use gel because it stays soft for a few days, but I find gel reduces the shrinkage so I do use it sometimes.
The difference isn’t really that much from cycle to cycle, mainly because I don’t follow it 100% and I also don’t always use recommended products, but what it you can’t see is how much smoother the hair gets each time, or that there are less tangles than before. Also I tried using my blow dryer on cool once or twice to reduce the shrinkage, I find my hair tangles if i don’t wash it under 3 days if it’s too shrunken, the blow dryer helps with this. I don’t have pictures of after the hair dries because I’m only vain when i’m washing my hair, afterwards I seem to forget that pictures are needed haha.
Twists and its many variations are like the poster style for every type of natural girl. You’ve got mini twists, rope twists, flat twists, large twists, small twists, the strand twists etc.
I think that the reason they’re so popular is that they can be really simple like large twists or really intricate like flat twisted styles
So they’re perfect for the beginner whos not so good at styling yet but also for the long term naturalista who has been there done that. Twisted styles can also be considered protective styles and can keep your hair tucked away for a few days or even up to a few weeks.
This week, after wondering what i could do to keep my hair out of the way, i decided to do some small twists. Now, i define ‘small twists ‘ as twists smaller than your average chunky twists, but definitely larger than mini twists, think about 15-50 twists.
I’m currently in a situation where i dont have access to my normal hair products so i didnt use anything special. But sometimes I like to be simple and not overcomplicate what I’m doing and the results are even more satisfying.
After co-washing my hair with Elasta QP Intense conditioner, i sprayed my hair lightly with a concentrated mix of aloe vera juice and water. Then, on the individual twisting sections, i applied a bit of Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie and twisted the section up into a tight two-strand twist and thats it! No fuss and no nonsense.
I actually enjoy wearing my twists in, which is why I make them small and i’ve kept them in since then, except from a small section at the front that I untwisted. First I left it as a side fringe (or a bang for my American readers) but I got caught in the rain and had to pin it into some pompadour/quiff mix, you like?
In my last post I talked about perm rod-ding the weave I had. The Curls were soft and bouncy the whole day, and people complimented me a lot. To preserve the curls, I put the hair into a pineapple and put a silk scarf over it. However the next day, The curls had fallen flat and the hair looked kind of frizzy and dull. I managed to get it acceptable state but I didn’t really think that it looked half is good as it did the day before. This may or may not have been a result of me not using any product to set the girls so the next time I am going to try with either a Styler or maybe an oil, just to see how the hair reacts.
Now, this is the third week with the weave and a lot of people have asked me whether I am not going to stay natural anymore and they’ve asked me why I decided not to stay natural. This surprised me because most of the people asking these questions are relaxed or guys that seem to have a preference for a straight hair. Most of the guys then went on to say that they preferred me with my hair in natural looking styles. So my Marley twists, wash n goes and my three strand twists are what they thought I looked best in.
To be honest, this really boosted my confidence in wearing natural hair here, I almost got the impression that people didn’t really like my hair apart from people who were already natural. But now that I’ve gotten this verbal affirmation that it suits me I feel like I’d be a lot more willing to rock a lot more styles.
Apart from the perm rods I have tried curl formers in the weave and I noticed that the curls were a lot more elongated and not as tight and they lasted a lot longer. I had the curls for about four days until I washed it and did the perm rods. Curl formers definitely take a lot less time to dry, I’m talking about two hours compared to overnight with the perm rods. In both cases I did use a dryer at the end but not longer than 10 minutes.
I had started to notice that my hair was looking dull, and was breaking off near the bottom. If I’m supposed to get more than one use out of it, then I can’t let it happen for much longer, so i decided to wash only the weave on the weekend.
I started off by sectioning the weave int two sections, left and right. I then put them up into two buns, to keep them off my face while I was washing.
To wash the hair, I diluted about a squirt of Dr. Bronners Peppermint Castile Liquid Soap in approximately two cups of water. Castile soap needs to be diluted before use, but how much you dilute it is up to you. When I washed the first section, it didn’t lather up enough for my liking, but the dirt was still coming off. When I had rinsed both sections with water, I decided to dilute another squirt of soap with only a cup of water. This lathered up a more and the water ran clear when I rinsed.
After this I used my to deep condition the hair for about 10 mins. To be honest, I don’t know whether this had much of an effect on the final hair because, the hair has been long cut off from nutrients and the like. However, it did feel better and smoother than it did straight after washing, so the deep conditoning must have helped.
After deep conditioning, I was about to use curlformers to style the hair, but I couldn’t find them in my rush. So, instead of curlformers, I opted to use perm rods. Something I hadn’t used in years! I didn’t use any product to set the hair before starting, as I didn’t want the hair to be weighed down. I used two different types of perm rod, the smallest and second smallest types available. I tried to use the bigger ones at the bottom but sometimes I just used whatever I had in my hand. The whole thing from wash to finished style took less than a football match to finish (I was watching Liverpool but didn’t really time when I started). Continue reading →
Hope you have all enjoyed your Christmas holiday so far, and are gearing up to celebrate new year! My Christmas ‘holiday’ has been uneventful but fun this year, been catching up with long lost friends, going out to eat and all that jazz. Unfortunately, I don’t get holiday at my workplace, so i’ve not had as much rest as I could have, but its not been too bad.
Well, everyone and their mother has been getting on my back about doing a ‘proper’ protective style, and I just sat looking at them like ‘huh??? but I just took out some Marley twists?’ Apparently, they weren’t in long enough (wondering why people care so much?) but I felt like giving my hair a proper break too, so I went for it.
I got some hair from Ali Express, and even though I am wary of buying things like hair online where you can’t see the quality, I have heard nothing but good things about Ali Express and so I bought a closure for a curly weave that I already had, and also a wavy 4 bundle pack with a closure.
The hair feels really good, it’s soft and silky and hasn’t shed at all yet, but it’s only been a day so any comments are a bit premature. Anyways, I washed and prepped my hair, using African Naturalistas Twist and Curl Pudding as my leave-in before I African threaded my hair. I woke up the next morning and my hair was DRY, dryer than week old bread, it was horrible! I decided to undo all the threading and re-moisturise and twist my hair into two strand twists using shea butter.
The shea butter didn’t help much, my hair was still quite dry but felt a bit better. I couldn’t go to the salon that day, but two days after, I managed to spare some time. Usually, I wouldn’t go to this salon as it is a relaxed salon, but my mum told me that there was a particular person that could do natural hair and that he was really good, so I went. I untwisted my hair before I got to his chair and the first thing he said was,’ Your kind of hair is a war to blow dry.’ Now I was thinking, hold on? Why are you fighting with my hair, if you know how to handle it. That was my warning sign, but I felt like I should just give him a chance, little did I know that I should have run as fast as I could. Next thing he brought a medium sized comb and started to comb my hair DRY. He just got stuck in and started tugging my hair, and I could feel my poor strands breaking and being ripped out of my scalp. After the third time I was like NO, stop, i’ll de-tangle it myself. So he left to attend to someone else while I attempted to de-tangle my hair.
Then I thought to myself, Simi, You never comb your dry, its such a no-no, why are you doing this to yourself? And that’s when I snapped, I got up, grabbed my things, and walked out the door, the ladies looked shocked when I started walking out and asked me why I was going. I just shook my head and kept going. I felt so angry that I had allowed that guy to damage part of my hair, and immediately decided to wash and prep my hair again so I could do it at another salon.
I sprayed on a mix of conditioner, castile soap and water, and started clarifying all the product I had used, and just by raking the product through my hair I saw the breakage that had happened. Clumps and strands of my hair were falling out, I was so angry!
Thankfully I managed to de-tangle my hair without losing too much more, and after I washed it, I put shea butter in my hair and put it straight in twists. I had to go out that night so I untwisted the twists, but only the back was dry, the rest was poofy and undefined. I twisted the front into a kind of side pompadour and put up the rest in a head band.
The next day I went to the salon I originally intended to go to, Mods Salon in lekki Phase 1 if anyone is interested, you can find the details here.
Its a small quiet salon, and I was impressed with the service. The lady who did my hair was very gentle with it, and even though I had to ask her to loosen her grip a few times, she didn’t do the hair too tight. My closure was nicely sown on, but she had a bit of a problem laying my stubborn edges flat, all in all it was good, and I don’t feel like I lost hair.
I’m glad I had the balls to walk out of the salon before I left there bald, it’s not something I ever thought I could do, but i’m also pissed at myself for not following my gut. Ah well, i’m lucky it was only a bit of hair that fell out, I’ve seen horror stories that were much worse. Do you like my new look?
This is just a quick check in to say that I’ve taken out my marley twists. Usually I’d have a protective style in for ay least 5 weeks but a) it was already starting to look rough and b) i did them myself so i didnt feel any type of way about getting my money’s worth because i didnt pay.
After weeks of doing nothing but wash n go’s , mini twists and twist out, I was getting very bored with my hair. Wash days were becoming a pain, detangling was done very infrequently and not at all properly, deep conditioning was scarce and I was just losing all patience with anything hair-related (including this blog *hides face*).
Well, after I got off from work early, and found that there was no traffic, I decided to visit a shopping complex near me to maybe find a new product to inspire me. That’s when I got the flash of inspiration in the form of some kinky extensions, and I thought to myself, why not do some Marley twists? My initial problem was the colour, my hair isn’t black, more a dark brown but all the shops only seemed to stock colour 1 and colour 30, which is almost bright blonde.
Also I could only find kinky extensions, rather than Marley braiding hair which left me feeling discouraged. After visiting the 5th hair shop I was ready to go back home, but just as I was walking towards the car I saw a store that seemed to deal only in weaves and extensions and hoped to maybe find something to fill in the gap. Lo and behold she had Marley hair, but she too only had black hair, I was about to buy it when in the corner of my eye I saw kinky extensions in colour 4 which is my absolute favourite colour! Yay me. They also happened to be quite a bit cheaper than the Marley hair.
So I got home, washed and prepared my hair for braiding, and asked an aunt who is supposedly a hairdresser to help me attach the braids. The main reason I asked her was because I had started a bit late,hadn’t quite gotten the hang of twisting, and my parts weren’t quite right. She complained about the thickness and texture of my hair, even though hers is also natural and my hair was blow dried. Anyways, when she finished, I noticed that the hair looked like I had done it myself, and not that well either, which I thought was apalling for a self – proclaimed hairdresser. Thank goodness I didn’t have to pay, I’d have asked her to start all over again.
Well, I rocked the jacked up twists for a week and still got a lot of compliments, however those that knew better didn’t hesitate to tell me that I needed to refresh the twists, and that I did. Last night I properly learnt how to twist and redid every twist, to make sure they were all uniform and fresh looking. So now I can say look at my self-installed Marley twists! I used the invisible root method and didn’t cut the hair at all, which has them about boob length, you like?
Today’s challenge is for a twisout pic, which is one of my favourite styles. There are just so many to choose from, flat twists, twist n curls, two strand twists and my favourite 3 strand twists. So here you go a picture of my 3 strand twists from back in the day ;). You like?