As most of you know, I’ve never really been a fan of braidouts. Twists and twistouts have been my go-to style from my transitioning days. I just could never imagine why i would take extra time braiding only to have not-so defined curls the next day. The few times I tried it, something always went wrong and I ended up throwing my hair into a textured puff. Eventually, I decided that braidouts were not for me.
Fast forward to late last year, I had been wearing a full wig with a closure and underneath I had done my hair into six braids (which only worked because my hair is thin, and the braids were nice and tight). I had successfully worn the wig for almost two weeks, when on the last day of my second week I FORGOT THE WIG AT HOME!! Now, this isn’t the first time this has happened to me, and it serves me right for not sleeping on time or getting my stuff ready the night before. But this time, the method I had used (wearing a scarf) was not available. Alas, what was I to do? I had to take down the braids, to my utmost despair.
Luckily, I had some Shea Moisture Smoothie in my car to aid in the take down process. So, I took each braid down with some smoothie on my fingers and fluffed up each section till there were no parts left. Would you imagine it came out flawlessly! You’d never imagine that I hadn’t planned to do the style.
And that, my friends, is the story of how I decided that braidouts weren’t so bad after all!
Today’s topic was requested, so we’re going to talk about hair loss and how to restore it. I’m one of those people who have noticed that my hairline wasn’t looking as full as it used to, especially when I was relaxed. So we’re going to explore how to prevent hair loss and how to reverse it.
Note: Something to note is that one reason my hairline now looks thinner is that my relaxed hair was a lot thinner than my natural hair. As a result, my hairline looks thinner than the rest of my hair by comparison. A few pictures should be able to tell you whether this is the case and you may not have anything to worry about.
Trying too hard to get your edges ‘on fleek’- I think you all know what I mean. Gel, edge control, pomade and brushing your hair to reach that slick effect that makes your hair look ‘neat’. It’s not necessary, and overdoing it can give you permanent hair loss not just on your edges, but the whole hairline. If you really need your hair to be smooth put a bit of product and tie a scarf overnight for for an hour for smooth edges without the mechanical trauma.
Protective styles – most styles with hair added tend to put a strain on your hairline. Braids, weaves and even cornrowed styles can wreak havoc if done too tight, if too much hair is added, it it’s left on too long etc. I think this is the worst culprit, everyone has seen the pics of Naomi Campbell with no front hair whatsoever and it’s not just her that has suffered from it. To avoid this hair nightmare, you need to tell your hairdresser to take it easy when they are doing your hair. They need to gently manipulate it so it doesn’t fall out at the roots. This kind of damage can be permanent so it’s good to watch out for this.
Jamaican Black Castor Oil – Massaging in room temperature or warm JBCO every morning and night has been known to help restore edges. Oils such as peppermint and rosemary are also known to stimulate hair growth and can be added to the castor oil to improve it’s potency. You could try doing this less frequently if you’re a bit short for time.
Raw onion juice – Blend finely chopped onions and with water and rub on your hairline every night. This method is very smelly and may not be suited to a lot of people, so I would suggest this as on overnight pre-poo the night before your wash day.
Honey, castor oil, olive oil and an egg yolk may be your ticket to full edges. Using this as a pre-poo will help to grow back your edges.
There you have it, tips to help you grow out your lost hairline, I hope this helps!
So it’s been a while since I followed the MHM method after having the twists, weave, more twists etc. One thing I like about the method though is that it’s nice to have a fixed regimen, I know exactly what i’m going to do and how often I need to do it. Whether I do exactly what i’m supposed to do is another thing entirely.
One thing I noticed about MHM is, my curls are always more defined than before, no matter what I did to my hair in between. I used to think that combing the hair would reverse or slow down the clumping, which it probably does to an extent but I still see better results every cycle.
My current method/products, do differ slightly than before but it doesn’t seem to have changed my hair in a major fashion. My current method is:
Cherry Lola: Liquid aminos, conditioner or yoghurt, honey and olive oil. I do this for at least an hour.
If i’m not doing the Cherry Lola I use a mix of water, conditioner and baking soda (I find that this mix is nice and slippery for detangling) rinsing immediately after the section is detangled.
Bentonite clay mix: about half a cup of bentonite clay mixed with aloe vera gel, olive oil, honey and conditioner. I leave this on for about 30 mins.
Deep conditioner: This I leave on for another 30 mins or so, sometimes the bentonite can be a bit drying so I only use this to soften it back up again.
Warm water, olive oil and conditioner: This mix really defines my curls and allows me to separate the clumps to create more volume whilst preventing frizz. This is a new find that i’m sticking to.
Gel if I find it necessary. After using the mix above, I don’t need to use gel because it stays soft for a few days, but I find gel reduces the shrinkage so I do use it sometimes.
The difference isn’t really that much from cycle to cycle, mainly because I don’t follow it 100% and I also don’t always use recommended products, but what it you can’t see is how much smoother the hair gets each time, or that there are less tangles than before. Also I tried using my blow dryer on cool once or twice to reduce the shrinkage, I find my hair tangles if i don’t wash it under 3 days if it’s too shrunken, the blow dryer helps with this. I don’t have pictures of after the hair dries because I’m only vain when i’m washing my hair, afterwards I seem to forget that pictures are needed haha.
Today, I’m going to focus on something that was a big issue around the time I first decided to go natural (wow, so long ago!) scab hair. For those who don’t know, scab hair is termed as the hair that grows after you decided to stop using chemicals on your hair, what we would call “new growth”. Some people have noticed that after growing their hair for years or more, the texture on their head changes from what it used to be at the beginning of their journey.
Because of this change, curlies around the world have hypothesized that the chemicals that had been applied to our scalp in the past had been absorbed, causing the new hair to be coarser and drier than it should be. The amount of time that goes by before the hair starts reverting back differs greatly with some saying it took almost three years for a change to be seen. Others feel that it is because after beginning the hair journey, we tend to take better care of our hair, and it is the increased moisture that improves the texture of our hair.
I had started to notice that my hair was looking dull, and was breaking off near the bottom. If I’m supposed to get more than one use out of it, then I can’t let it happen for much longer, so i decided to wash only the weave on the weekend.
I started off by sectioning the weave int two sections, left and right. I then put them up into two buns, to keep them off my face while I was washing.
To wash the hair, I diluted about a squirt of Dr. Bronners Peppermint Castile Liquid Soap in approximately two cups of water. Castile soap needs to be diluted before use, but how much you dilute it is up to you. When I washed the first section, it didn’t lather up enough for my liking, but the dirt was still coming off. When I had rinsed both sections with water, I decided to dilute another squirt of soap with only a cup of water. This lathered up a more and the water ran clear when I rinsed.
After this I used my to deep condition the hair for about 10 mins. To be honest, I don’t know whether this had much of an effect on the final hair because, the hair has been long cut off from nutrients and the like. However, it did feel better and smoother than it did straight after washing, so the deep conditoning must have helped.
After deep conditioning, I was about to use curlformers to style the hair, but I couldn’t find them in my rush. So, instead of curlformers, I opted to use perm rods. Something I hadn’t used in years! I didn’t use any product to set the hair before starting, as I didn’t want the hair to be weighed down. I used two different types of perm rod, the smallest and second smallest types available. I tried to use the bigger ones at the bottom but sometimes I just used whatever I had in my hand. The whole thing from wash to finished style took less than a football match to finish (I was watching Liverpool but didn’t really time when I started). Continue reading →
I hope you have all gorged yourself silly during the Christmas and New Year festivities! I tried not to, but the chicken just looked too good haha. Just like millions of people all around he world, one of my main resolutions is to eat healthily and lose some of that darn tummy weight.
A few friends of mine have decided that the new year marks a new chapter of the hair journey, signified by a big chop. Most of them have transitioned for a few months or weeks and so have a cute lil fro, that isn’t hard to manage, but they have no idea how to care for. A lot of us have grownup with an African mentality when it comes to our hair, especially in regards to wash frequency, products used and de-tangling methods. By following these methods, we succeeded in making our hair low maintenance and ‘pretty looking’ but ultimately very unhealthy. This unhealthiness is a major reason a lot of us have decided to go natural, and so i’d like to shed some light on how to completely overhaul your journey and make your hair ‘easier to manage’.
Moisture is Key!
The first thing people say when they go natural is how ‘hard’ their hair is. Maybe they’re expecting soft baby curls or something but HELLO! African hair is naturally dry and the only way to soften it and make it behave the way you want to is by moisturising. Moisturising does not mean slathering various oils and creams and the like, NO it means using specific products (water based) to put the moisture in you hair, and then to keep the moisture in your hair, sealing the hair with an oil or butter. Things like oils and silicones sit on top of your hair, keeping moisture from getting out, but also stopping moisture getting in. So it’s important you ensure your hair is getting the moisture it needs and that it stays moisturised.
Hope you have all enjoyed your Christmas holiday so far, and are gearing up to celebrate new year! My Christmas ‘holiday’ has been uneventful but fun this year, been catching up with long lost friends, going out to eat and all that jazz. Unfortunately, I don’t get holiday at my workplace, so i’ve not had as much rest as I could have, but its not been too bad.
Well, everyone and their mother has been getting on my back about doing a ‘proper’ protective style, and I just sat looking at them like ‘huh??? but I just took out some Marley twists?’ Apparently, they weren’t in long enough (wondering why people care so much?) but I felt like giving my hair a proper break too, so I went for it.
I got some hair from Ali Express, and even though I am wary of buying things like hair online where you can’t see the quality, I have heard nothing but good things about Ali Express and so I bought a closure for a curly weave that I already had, and also a wavy 4 bundle pack with a closure.
The hair feels really good, it’s soft and silky and hasn’t shed at all yet, but it’s only been a day so any comments are a bit premature. Anyways, I washed and prepped my hair, using African Naturalistas Twist and Curl Pudding as my leave-in before I African threaded my hair. I woke up the next morning and my hair was DRY, dryer than week old bread, it was horrible! I decided to undo all the threading and re-moisturise and twist my hair into two strand twists using shea butter.
The shea butter didn’t help much, my hair was still quite dry but felt a bit better. I couldn’t go to the salon that day, but two days after, I managed to spare some time. Usually, I wouldn’t go to this salon as it is a relaxed salon, but my mum told me that there was a particular person that could do natural hair and that he was really good, so I went. I untwisted my hair before I got to his chair and the first thing he said was,’ Your kind of hair is a war to blow dry.’ Now I was thinking, hold on? Why are you fighting with my hair, if you know how to handle it. That was my warning sign, but I felt like I should just give him a chance, little did I know that I should have run as fast as I could. Next thing he brought a medium sized comb and started to comb my hair DRY. He just got stuck in and started tugging my hair, and I could feel my poor strands breaking and being ripped out of my scalp. After the third time I was like NO, stop, i’ll de-tangle it myself. So he left to attend to someone else while I attempted to de-tangle my hair.
Then I thought to myself, Simi, You never comb your dry, its such a no-no, why are you doing this to yourself? And that’s when I snapped, I got up, grabbed my things, and walked out the door, the ladies looked shocked when I started walking out and asked me why I was going. I just shook my head and kept going. I felt so angry that I had allowed that guy to damage part of my hair, and immediately decided to wash and prep my hair again so I could do it at another salon.
I sprayed on a mix of conditioner, castile soap and water, and started clarifying all the product I had used, and just by raking the product through my hair I saw the breakage that had happened. Clumps and strands of my hair were falling out, I was so angry!
Thankfully I managed to de-tangle my hair without losing too much more, and after I washed it, I put shea butter in my hair and put it straight in twists. I had to go out that night so I untwisted the twists, but only the back was dry, the rest was poofy and undefined. I twisted the front into a kind of side pompadour and put up the rest in a head band.
The next day I went to the salon I originally intended to go to, Mods Salon in lekki Phase 1 if anyone is interested, you can find the details here.
Its a small quiet salon, and I was impressed with the service. The lady who did my hair was very gentle with it, and even though I had to ask her to loosen her grip a few times, she didn’t do the hair too tight. My closure was nicely sown on, but she had a bit of a problem laying my stubborn edges flat, all in all it was good, and I don’t feel like I lost hair.
I’m glad I had the balls to walk out of the salon before I left there bald, it’s not something I ever thought I could do, but i’m also pissed at myself for not following my gut. Ah well, i’m lucky it was only a bit of hair that fell out, I’ve seen horror stories that were much worse. Do you like my new look?
This is just a quick check in to say that I’ve taken out my marley twists. Usually I’d have a protective style in for ay least 5 weeks but a) it was already starting to look rough and b) i did them myself so i didnt feel any type of way about getting my money’s worth because i didnt pay.
Its been too long, where have you been? hahah just playing wit ya, Lagos life has got me in a tizzy, so little time to work, play, blog and do hair all in 24 hours. Ah well, i’m trying.
So today i’m talking about my favourite accessory, I realised I don’t really have one, though I like to wear scarves and the like, I don’t really feel anything for them, so instead i’m showing you a wish list of all the accessories i’d like to have.
1. A Bow
I actually have one of these but its in a colour that makes it hard to wear on most clothes.
2. A head scarf
Technically I have scraps of fabric I could make this with, but technically, I suck at DIY sewing.
3. A hair band
I love pretty hairbands like these, but really nice ones are quite hard to find. The best part is that you can put them over almost any hair style and it won’t mess it up or get caught in between.
There you have it, some of my favourite accessories, are there any hair accessories on your wish list?