Phew That Was Close: Salon Mishap


Hi there!

Hope you have all enjoyed your Christmas holiday so far, and are gearing up to celebrate new year! My Christmas ‘holiday’ has been uneventful but fun this year, been catching up with long lost friends, going out to eat and all that jazz. Unfortunately, I don’t get holiday at my workplace, so i’ve not had as much rest as I could have, but its not been too bad.

Well, everyone and their mother has been getting on my back about doing a ‘proper’ protective style, and I just sat looking at them like ‘huh??? but I just took out some Marley twists?’ Apparently, they weren’t in long enough (wondering why people care so much?)  but I felt like giving my hair a proper break too, so I went for it.

I got some hair from Ali Express, and even though I am wary of buying things like hair online where you can’t see the quality, I have heard nothing but good things about Ali Express and so I bought a closure for a curly weave that I already had, and also a wavy 4 bundle pack with a closure.

The hair feels really good, it’s soft and silky and hasn’t shed at all yet, but it’s only been a day so any comments are a bit premature. Anyways, I washed and prepped my hair, using African Naturalistas Twist and Curl Pudding as my leave-in before I African threaded my hair. I woke up the next morning and my hair was DRY, dryer than week old bread, it was horrible! I decided to undo all the threading and re-moisturise and twist my hair into two strand twists using shea butter.

The shea butter didn’t help much, my hair was still quite dry but felt a bit better. I couldn’t go to the salon that day, but two days after, I managed to spare some time. Usually, I wouldn’t go to this salon as it is a relaxed salon, but my mum told me that there was a particular person that could do natural hair and that he was really good, so I went. I untwisted my hair before I got to his chair and the first thing he said was,’ Your kind of hair is a war to blow dry.’ Now I was thinking, hold on? Why are you fighting with my hair, if you know how to handle it. That was my warning sign, but I felt like I should just give him  a chance, little did I know that I should have run as fast as I could. Next thing he brought a medium sized comb and started to comb my hair DRY. He just got stuck in and started tugging my hair, and I could feel my poor strands breaking and being ripped out of my scalp. After the third time I was like NO, stop, i’ll de-tangle it myself. So he left to attend to someone else while I attempted to de-tangle my hair.

Looking like a mad woman after trying to detangle my hair dry :'(
Looking like a mad woman after trying to detangle my hair dry 😥

Then I thought to myself, Simi, You never comb your dry, its such a no-no, why are you doing this to yourself? And that’s when I snapped, I got up, grabbed my things, and walked out the door, the ladies looked shocked when I started walking out and asked me why I was going. I just shook my head and kept going. I felt so angry that I had allowed that guy to damage part of my hair, and immediately decided to wash and prep my hair again so I could do it at another salon.

I sprayed on a mix of conditioner, castile soap and water, and started clarifying all the product I had used, and just by raking the product through my hair I saw the breakage that had happened. Clumps and strands of my hair were falling out, I was so angry!

 

Some hair that fell out, without further de-tangling.
Some hair that fell out, without further de-tangling.

Thankfully I managed to de-tangle my hair without losing too much more, and after I washed it, I put shea butter in my hair and put it straight in twists. I had to go out that night so I untwisted the twists, but only the back was dry, the rest was poofy and undefined. I twisted the front into a kind of side pompadour and put up the rest in a head band.

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The next day I went to the salon I originally intended to go to, Mods Salon in lekki Phase 1 if anyone is interested, you can find the details here.

Its a small quiet salon, and I was impressed with the service. The lady who did my hair was very gentle with it, and even though I had to ask her to loosen her grip a few times, she didn’t do the hair too tight. My closure was nicely sown on, but she had a bit of a problem laying my stubborn edges flat, all in all it was good, and I don’t feel like I lost hair.

 

Me at the beach
Me at the beach, duck face!!!

I’m glad I had the balls to walk out of the salon before I left there bald, it’s not something I ever thought I could do, but i’m also pissed at myself for not following my gut. Ah well, i’m lucky it was only a bit of hair that fell out, I’ve seen horror stories that were much worse. Do you like my new look?

 

How te hair properly looks
How te hair properly looks.

Simi

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Marley Twists


Hi guys!

 

After weeks of doing nothing but wash n go’s , mini twists and twist out, I was getting very bored with my hair. Wash days were becoming a pain, detangling was done very infrequently and not at all properly, deep conditioning was scarce and I was just losing all patience with anything hair-related (including this blog *hides face*).

Well, after I got off from work early, and found that there was no traffic, I decided to visit a shopping complex near me to maybe find a new product to inspire me. That’s when I got the flash of inspiration in the form of some kinky extensions, and I thought to myself, why not do some Marley twists? My initial problem was the colour, my hair isn’t black, more a dark brown but all the shops only seemed to stock colour 1 and colour 30, which is almost bright blonde.

Also I could only find kinky extensions, rather than Marley braiding hair which left me feeling discouraged. After visiting the 5th hair shop I was ready to go back home, but just as I was walking towards the car I saw a store that seemed to deal only in weaves and extensions and hoped to maybe find something to fill in the gap. Lo and behold she had Marley hair, but she too only had black hair, I was about to buy it when in the corner of my eye I saw kinky extensions in colour 4 which is my absolute favourite colour! Yay me. They also happened to be quite a bit cheaper than the Marley hair.

 

So I got home, washed and prepared my hair for braiding, and asked an aunt who is supposedly a hairdresser to help me attach the braids. The main reason I asked her was because I had started a bit late,hadn’t quite gotten the hang of twisting, and my parts weren’t quite right. She complained about the thickness and texture of my hair, even though hers is also natural and my hair was blow dried. Anyways, when she finished, I noticed that the hair looked like I had done it myself, and not that well either, which I thought was apalling for a self – proclaimed hairdresser. Thank goodness I didn’t have to pay, I’d have asked her to start all over again.

 

Well, I rocked the jacked up twists for a week and still got a lot of compliments, however those that knew better didn’t hesitate to tell me that I needed to refresh the twists, and that I did. Last night I properly learnt how to twist and redid every twist, to make sure they were all uniform and fresh looking. So now I can say look at my self-installed Marley twists! I used the invisible root method and didn’t cut the hair at all, which has them about boob length, you like?

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Simi

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Why is my Hair Not Growing Series: Episode 4 Retaining your length


Hii,

In this episode we’re going to talk about getting rid of those hair issues and retaining your length. We do a lot of things wrong when it comes to caring for our hair, whether its natural, relaxed, under a weave or in a jheri curl.

Detangling

If the various mothers in my life taught me one thing it was: you better comb all them kinks and naps out of your hair girl, or it’ll break off. Here in Nigeria it’s like a threat; relax your hair every 4 weeks or it will break off, use the smallest comb to make sure every hair is detangled or it will break off, sleep with a hairnet on or it will break off! I think the number one reason why all the ladies who ask me for advice have length retention issues is because they don’t detangle efficiently for their hair. There is no one size fits all to detangling and you have to figure out how detangled you need your hair to be and how you’re going to get it to that stage.

Products

Products and their ingredients are something I don’t really talk about. I didn’t think they were that important at the start of my journey, but now I have recognised the superiority of the natural ingredients over the synthetic ones. Now, i’m not saying go and burn all your shop bought products and bathe in rain water (lol), but i’m saying a lot of companies fill their products with crap and claim to have the best ingredients. meanwhile it’s filled with skin irritants like sulphates, cheap fillers like mineral oil and suspected carcinogens like parabens. Before you buy anything from now on, please look at your ingredients list. Even if you understand zilch, it’s best to at least know whats in your products (including things you might be allergic to). In addition, companies claim to have ‘olive oil’, ‘argan oil’ and ‘jojoba oil’ in their product, but you only see it way down the ingredients list, meaning you’ve probably inhaled more of that product in the air than the amount currently in your bottle of product.

Styling and Manipulation

In African countries, we are very guilty of putting hair length over health. You see someone with armpit length hair, but about 3 inches of that length is stringy and see through. If you suggest a trim to that lady she’ll assume you’re a jealous enemy of her progress. Hairdressers mostly care about how something looks and not how its done. A hair dresser once started snipping the frizzy hairs from the corn rows she had just done, which were done with NO EXTENSIONS. I lost all of my front hair after a stylist fixed my weave too tightly to the braids underneath. A stylist started trying to RIP the knots out of my hair because she didn’t have the patience to detangle it properly. I understand arguing with hairdressers just adds to the struggle, but allowing them to do what they do can cause us lengthy setbacks.

Another thing is we tend to manipulate our hair way too much. A hairstyle should not need to be adjusted multiple times in the day, I don’t even believe in retwisting hair at night any more because I found that the curl pattern the next morning looked better when it was more slept in. An out style for me usually lasts 3 days with definition and after that it can only be salvaged by a puff, updo or retwisting. You should aim to only manipulate your hair twice a week excluding putting on scarves and accessories etc.

Heat

We love to blow dry our hair and tend to do so before any major style but heat is so bad for your hair. I’ve never been one for hair science, but if you think of how it feels when your burn yourself with a straightener or have the dryer on one spot too long and you can imagine how your poor hair feels. Heat basically denatures the proteins in your hair and breaks them down. This causes your hair to be more fragile, lose its curl pattern and be less co-operative with your styling regime. Blow drying and straightening isnt too harmful once in a while, but you need to make sure you have a heat protectant and do the heat styling at a low temperature. It’s also best to have your hair in a really healthy state before any heat styling.

These are the main things to consider when trying to gradually increase the health of your hair, and now onto some health hair practices you should try and begin to ensure your hair stays healthy.

Washing

If you live in a humid climate like I do then i’m just gonna say it straight. Wash your hair woman (or man)! Even if you live in an air-conditioned world the humidity is going to get to you even a little bit, and I can’t believe people will go months without washing just to preserve a style. It happens frequently here, and frankly I would like to see it stop. You NEED to wash your hair as often as logistically possible, but by no means should you not wash your hair at all for more than a month. Whichever method of washing you choose, you need to get all of the oils, stylers and other gunk out of your hair so your scalp can be clean and fresh and so your products can be effective.

Treatments

Some people think treatments are for special things like birthdays and weddings, when really they should be more every other wash than every year. Protein treatments, deep conditioning, henna et al are all things you should do on a regular basis. Obviously not all will work for you and thats ok, but at least one of them will, and I think it’s necessary to give your hair an extra boost when you can. Something as small as adding a few oils to your regular conditioner and leaving it on for 20 mins can have a positive impact.

Protective styles and protection

Protective styles are kept in for longer periods of time than out styles are enable you to manipulate your hair less often. If, when you have a protective style in, you find yourself still manipulating your hair daily, you ain’t protecting nothing. A protective style can be anything from a week long updo, to a 6 week long weave.

Other things we many not know to do is protecting the hair, night scarves are an obvious example of this, but others are hats to protect from the sun and wind and hairband to protect your ends from you clothes.

This post was long!! But I hope you started to see what your regimen may be lacking, and you’ve picked up tips on how to make it better! This is the end of the theory part of the series for now! The next element I will be focusing on is an ask me segment where you can ask me any questions pertaning to any issues you may be having with your hair, and i’ll do my best to answer 😉 contact me at tnacurls@gmail.com for any questions you may have!!

EDIT: my email address is actually tnacurls@gmail.com my bad!!!

Simi

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Oh Curl Challenge Day 18: Protective Style


Hi guuysss,

 

been a while since I did one of these, i’ve been totally focusing on other posts like my Max hydration journey and my Why is my Hair not growing series. I hoped you checked them out in the meantime!

Today’s pic is Protective Style, which I haven’t done a lot of in the past year, in fact I think my last one was back in May at NYSC Camp(which i still haven’t posted about, awkies!!) But here is one of my favourite styles, a wig!

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