Every time someone runs their hands through my hair I get the same reaction: oohh its so thick/curly/wooly/soft/hard/long/pretty. But even from people that have never touched my hair, the most frequently used to describe it is ‘thick’.
Now I can understand why you would think so, like most people with type 4 hair my hair shrinks a lot, i’d say to about 50% of its normal length. That hair is all bunched up near my scalp, giving the appearance that I have short, thick hair. (The way people tend to talk about thickness actually refers to the density of hairs on my scalp rather than the width of the individual strands).
When partly stretched out, you can actually see that my ends seems to go see through. At first, I thought this was due to bad hair practices on my part, but I then realised that if i completely stretched my hair out, most of the lengths were equal, meaning it was just the fact that I didn’t have that much hair on my head that gave the appearance of thin ends.
Acknowledging this helps me to understand why certain styles never look quite the same even when I copy and tweak ideas from other type 4 naturalistas. Now I have resigned myself to the fact that my hair will never be Tracee Ellis Ross big, but that doesn’t dictate whether i’ll have a banging twist out or pretty flat twists. It just means that I may need a bit of extra help to make my hair ‘big’ when I want to. Honestly though, for me, I like my ‘not too big’ hair just fine, styling only takes about two hours and detangling lasts for an hour tops.
The main way I try and give the illusion of full hair is to do ‘out’ styles like twist-outs and bantu knot-outs. They give extra volume and make your hair look a lot bigger without the hassle of having to add extra hair. Obviously, you could add extra hair such as marley hair or natural looking clip-ins to give your hair a boost.
Those are just a few of the advantages of less dense hair, obviously dense hair has its advantages too, so i’m not knocking you if you have dense hair. I just think you should love what you have and admire what you don’t 😉
Sorry guys about that mis-post, my phone likes to do funny things like upload unfinished posts when i’m not looking!
My hair goal is the same as most other naturals this side of the solar system. I just want healthy hair, and I’ve technically achieved that goal because my hair is healthy. So to specify and go a bit deeper I’d like long, thick and healthy hair, and this is where the debate begins.
For some reason I keep seeing a healthy hair V long hair debate as if you can’t have both? I understand some people hang on to damaged or relaxed ends because of the length it gives them, but they are strictly fooling themselves. In my opinion, if you take care of your hair even moderately well, it will grow and retain length at a healthy rate. Unless you’re actually ill there’s no reason for your not to grow healthily so why can’t it be both healthy and long?
You may have some setbacks on the way like heat damage or a crazy stylist but ultimately I think both of these goals are possible at the same time without having to sacrifice one for the other. The thickness part of it howver, thats something you are born with and even though people would swear on their grandma’s left toe that such and such remedy works, I only think that the effect is moderate and temporary so i’ve decided to accept the fact that my hair is not gonna be big and poofy like some other naturals I admire.
To give a visual effect of what I aspire to be (even though I know genetically its not really possible) i’ll link some vloggers below to show you what I mean.
This is me just checking in on you with a short post to tell you that i’m back from NYSC camp. For all those who don’t know what that is, don’t worry i’ll be explaining everything in a post coming up later this week. EVERYONE who is eligible should go for NYSC, especially the camp part (it’s definitely the most fun part).
I currently have some big kinky twists done by a hairdresser in Lekki, near my house and i’ll be posting on how i’m never going to a hairdresser again if I can help it (yes it was really that bad). And my natural hair anniversary is coming up on April 12th so I may do my first ever length check post soon.
All in all, expect quite a few more than usual posts from me so tune in frequently!
As some of you may know, I’m no longer in England. Actually i’ve been all over the place in the past year i’m just not very good at documenting my travels. Well for now, i’m currently in my homeland, living it up in the crazy metropolis known as Lagos.
Some facts about Lagos:
1. It’s hot
2. It’s humid
3. It’s currently in rainy season…so it’s rainy
4. You are constantly being bombarded by gross smells
5. Did I mention that its really hot??
I’m in the city for my NYSC, which is a programme that all graduates need to do before they can begin working in Nigeria. I’m actually supposed to begin camp soon, so i’ll keep you posted on how I manage my hair (and self) in those trying times. This will be a good experience to see how I survive using minimal products and tools.
As trying as it may seem I love Lagos, and I can’t wait to see how this year pans out for me :D.
I told you that I would post a bit quicker this time hehe. This post is fairly simple my favourite instagrammer has to be @kinky_chicks1 I dont really follow hair blogs, this is the only one. But the the variety of hair and hairstyles is inspiring. I get a lot of ideas and sometimes just love to drool over other people’s hair.
I got the inspiration for this post whilst talking to some of my cheer friends (you know who you are). My cheer team is composed of a lot of people with a lot of different backgrounds and so we all have different opinions on various things. So we were on our way to a competition, when we started talking about hair (who would have guessed?). The general gist of it was wash day; the frequency, what products we used and how long it took.
My hair was out in a puff at the time and I explained that due to the kinky and dry nature of my hair, in winter I didn’t wash my hair more than once a week, even if I sweated more than usual that week. See some people just wash their hair everyday, and they forget that the main reason for washing so often is to get rid of excess grease in their hair. Continue reading →
As corny and cheesy as it may sound, my main curl friend is my lil’ sis, the ever elusive Temi! Even though we were in different countries, we began transitioning not knowing the other was doing the same. I did my big chop first but she followed suit one or two months later.
But apart from Temi my main curl friend is one of my uni besties Wendy. She is one of the few people i inspired to go natural and she is loving it! The funniest thing is that we both dyed our hair using the same box colour without the other knowing, but she dyed hers twice, so hers is lighter (kinda).
If you currently know me, or have gotten to know me withing the past 2 years you would know that I have 1 style that I wear most of the time, that I could wear forever! MY PUFF!!!!!! It just so happens that i’m wearing one today after my awesome three strand twistout ( review soon come) got a bit too wild for work.
The humble puff has saved me from many failed twist-outs, bantu-knot outs old wash-n-goes, and other various styles that look soooo much better on other people than on me. If the style still has definition to it, I just slap a large band or a scarf on it and call it a night. If the state of my hair is just wack, then I just spray a bit of water (the joys of springy hair) and it reverts back to a big fluffball, perfect for my signature poofy puff 😀 It’s so easy to achieve and can be done in under 30 seconds, why do any other style?
Here are pictures of my other puffs:
Toooo many pictures, i chose one a month for the past 6 and there are still loads more to show maybe in another post?
This post is going to be fairly quick, well at least quicker than my previous ones. Hair products are such a big thing now, especially with every hair company and their mother bringing out a new ‘natural’ line. So many people (including me) get sucked into buying the latest curl defining products, or new oil, or new growth serum. Many don’t work in the way you want them to, or the way they worked for someone else but I have a few staples that have currently been good to me over the past year or so.
Shampoo: Elasta QP Creme Conditioning Shampoo, the only shampoo I feel comfortable using. It smells good, is really thick so a little goes a long way, and has mostly natural ingredients which is so good for your hair and body. It leaves your hair feeling clean, but not stripped, and very moisturised.
First 5 ingredients: Water (Aqua), Disodium Cocoamphodipropionate, Cocamide MEA, Polyquaternium-10, Olea Europaea (Olive) Fruit Oil.